Co-parenting doesn’t have to be the result of an ugly separation or divorce; in fact co-parenting is often a very agreeable part of gay or lesbian parenting. If you are in a same-sex relationship and you want to become parents, you might want to consider co-parenting before getting involved in a process such as surrogacy or artificial insemination which can be expensive, time-consuming and complicated.

Get started today by reading profiles on and consider advertisements from prospective co-parents. Our co-parenting forum is your safe space to discuss views with possible co-parents regarding conception, pregnancy and upbringing, and depending on your circumstances you can search through advertisements for a lesbian or gay couple, a single woman or a single man. All of this depends on your preferences regarding your co-parent.

Once you’ve found your ideal co-parent(s), we strongly advise you to develop and agree to a signed co-parenting contract, as suggested in our blog, and then decide on how you want to go about insemination, whether that is artificial or natural. You’ll be surprised at how many happy gay and lesbian coparenting stories started with a home insemination.

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How Does Co-Parenting Work?

Co-parenting is the philosophy that two (or more) individuals with non romantic coparenting attachment get together to have a child. It is often the chosen method of having a child by same-sex couples and single individuals, in order to have a partner with whom to share responsibility of the child without the stress and challenges of a romantic relationship.

Same sex co-parenting:

Same-sex co-parenting could involve one gay couple and one lesbian couple, or one same-sex couple with a single individual. This is the ideal solution for same-sex couples wanting to have a baby without going down the route of a donor or surrogate, and enables the couple to share responsibility with another.The options for same-sex couple include sharing the child between two households close together, where both couples, or the couple and the individual, provide equal parenting, finances and responsibility as well as custody of the child. The other option is to have the single person move into the same home as the couple, either as a short-term or long-term arrangement, in order to more closely organise every point of the process from insemination, through pregnancy and into the upbringing of the child.These options are completely up to you and your co-parent depending on how you want to go about your child’s upbringing.

Modern co-parenting:

Non-romantic co-parenting is the journey chosen by two single individuals who wish to have a child without the ties of a romantic relationship. The co-parents will usually share equal responsibility of the child including finances, education, custody and all other aspects of the child’s upbringing. The child usually grows up in two different households, but the platonic couple could also choose to share a house in order to make the first years of their child’s life more seamless.

Frequently asked questions about co-parenting

Finding a suitable co-parent match online?
Around 20% of all adults never have a child of their own, and for some people this is entirely by choice, but for others this is by circumstance. Professional people with strong values, impressive resources and inspiring life experiences often reach their 30s and find themselves single for varying reasons, but with everything that they want from life but a child.Being in a position where parenting with a romantic partner is not a possibility shouldn’t close doors, it should open them, and that is the option that wants to give its members.

Why would I have a child with a stranger?

You won’t by any means be having a child with a stranger. Choosing a co-parent does not happen overnight, and by choosing a co-parent you will be choosing somebody with whom you share values, similar goals and parenting outlook in order to bring a child into the world.Before you bring your child into the world however, the aim of co-parenting is to get to know one another and form a friendship or personal relationship on which you can base your parenting. The most successful co-parenting partnerships come from co-parents who spend a lot of time getting to know each other before beginning to process of insemination, pregnancy and child upbringing.

What is the difference between a co-parents and a ‘known donor’?

A co-parent is somebody with whom you share all parenting responsibilities from finances to education, religion and custody, whereas a known donor is somebody who donates sperm or an egg in order for you to have a child, but might not necessarily want to have a part in the upbringing of the child.The known donor will be somebody known to you, you might meet them through or you might have known them before. Knowing your donor will enable you to ask all of the questions which you want to know about the natural parent of your child, such as these examples on our blog.

Who will be the legal parents?

That depends on your preferences and the arrangement that you have with your co-parent. Depending on whether you are two single individuals or two same-sex couples, in the United States it is legal for up to three parents to be named as legal parents on a child’s birth certificate.

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26 thoughts on “Find a Co-Parent Match with

  1. Interested in becoming a parent any way possible I’m unable to have children my husband is Able

  2. I’m a mother of one and I’m not ready yet to be a mother my son is a year 7months old and would like him to have parents who would raise him and love him and adopt him
    Yours sincerely R Mashamaite

    1. Hi Julia,

      I am interested in adoption.

  3. Hi, I’m a 37 year old man and wanted to be a father all my life. I don’t do relationship s all that well, I really want to be a co parent with another responsible adult female. I would rather be a co parent than a sperm donor

    1. Hello, where do you live? What do you do ?
      I would like to chat in private, thanks

  4. I’m married, but my wife doesn’t want to have kids. However, she is okay if I can assist another family help have family.

  5. Hello,
    I am 38 and do not have a child and would like a partner that wants one as well.


    1. I am looking for coparent , I have a stable life.
      Where are you from?


    2. Can we talk?

  6. My partner has a child from her previous marriage. She can’t. The doctors said that I could have a baby, so my wife allowed me to have another daughter. Please any women interested contact me

  7. I am 10 years older than my husband and have 3 grown kids. I can’t have any more children and don’t want to neccissarily raise anymore kids. But he wants a kid. We are interested in him co-parenting with someone. My husband would make a great father

  8. My husband and I are looking to adopt/co-parent. I’m a pediatric nurse/nurse practitioner (graduate this year). My husband is a Chef. We have two beautiful dogs and lots of love to share.

  9. Hey I’m 26 years old trying to have A Baby before i turn 27. Most people say I’m A beautiful girl but can’t find anyone to have A Baby with me. Could some please help, I’m looking for A black/Jamaican male .

  10. Seeking a woman or female couple wanting a baby. In Wisconsin or northern IL is preferred.

  11. Any females needing help having kids I’m 25 and single and if any couples or women need help starting a family let me know

  12. My wife can’t have kids and I really want one.

  13. Hi I’m a 30 year old male who wants to have a child
    Ever since I was a boy I wanted to have a son im a single gay but very discreet and private male.i know I would make a great father .please lets go half on everything regarding our child!

  14. Hi I am a 40 yr old woman from NY and have a successful career but would like to have a baby. I’m looking for someone to coparent with. Anyone from the NY area?

  15. Looking to meet a guy to co parent with in Houston Tx. I’m a ELA teacher and have a 7 month old son.

  16. I am a 37byear old male looking to have a baby. I live in Southern Ontario.

  17. Lovetolaugh
    11/22/2021 at

    I am an adult female going through ovarian rejuvenation. Looking for a partner for a coparenting agreement.
    Me: Educated, well-travelled, self-employed, former education administrator and Montessori Pre-K teacher with a high IQ, close family and support system, black. Planning pregnancy at the end of 2022 or beginning of 2023. Kind, loving, supportive. Raised nephews and nieces so didn’t have a chance to have a child thé traditional way.

  18. Seth Benjamin
    12/09/2021 at

    Wanting to donate sperm

  19. I’m interested in becoming a parent and am willing to co parent so if any woman is ready to become a mother but is scared to raise a child alone I am willing to be that man.

  20. Kemeisha
    01/03/2022 at

    I would like to co-parent with a responsible adult close by. I live in New York, rockland county. I’m African-American. I would prefer to co-parent with someone outside my race. I’m 26 years old.

  21. Still looking for co..doesn’t seem like to much here ,however if others are watching and waiting…(female seeking male,that is.)

  22. Someone questioned also,why around here,it seemed like ones could have around here but live elsewhere and looking to wed.however persons gave a fuss like ones could not go back together.whats up with that?have a clue?

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