Co-parenting doesn’t have to be the result of an ugly separation or divorce; in fact co-parenting is often a very agreeable part of gay or lesbian parenting. If you are in a same-sex relationship and you want to become parents, you might want to consider co-parenting before getting involved in a process such as surrogacy or artificial insemination which can be expensive, time-consuming and complicated.
Get started today by reading profiles on coparents.com and consider advertisements from prospective co-parents. Our co-parenting forum is your safe space to discuss views with possible co-parents regarding conception, pregnancy and upbringing, and depending on your circumstances you can search through advertisements for a lesbian or gay couple, a single woman or a single man. All of this depends on your preferences regarding your co-parent.
Once you’ve found your ideal co-parent(s), we strongly advise you to develop and agree to a signed co-parenting contract, as suggested in our blog, and then decide on how you want to go about insemination, whether that is artificial or natural. You’ll be surprised at how many happy gay and lesbian coparenting stories started with a home insemination.
How Does Co-Parenting Work?
Co-parenting is the philosophy that two (or more) individuals with non romantic coparenting attachment get together to have a child. It is often the chosen method of having a child by same-sex couples and single individuals, in order to have a partner with whom to share responsibility of the child without the stress and challenges of a romantic relationship.
Same sex co-parenting:
Same-sex co-parenting could involve one gay couple and one lesbian couple, or one same-sex couple with a single individual. This is the ideal solution for same-sex couples wanting to have a baby without going down the route of a donor or surrogate, and enables the couple to share responsibility with another.The options for same-sex couple include sharing the child between two households close together, where both couples, or the couple and the individual, provide equal parenting, finances and responsibility as well as custody of the child. The other option is to have the single person move into the same home as the couple, either as a short-term or long-term arrangement, in order to more closely organise every point of the process from insemination, through pregnancy and into the upbringing of the child.These options are completely up to you and your co-parent depending on how you want to go about your child’s upbringing.
Modern co-parenting:
Non-romantic co-parenting is the journey chosen by two single individuals who wish to have a child without the ties of a romantic relationship. The co-parents will usually share equal responsibility of the child including finances, education, custody and all other aspects of the child’s upbringing. The child usually grows up in two different households, but the platonic couple could also choose to share a house in order to make the first years of their child’s life more seamless.
Frequently asked questions about co-parenting
Finding a suitable co-parent match online?
Around 20% of all adults never have a child of their own, and for some people this is entirely by choice, but for others this is by circumstance. Professional people with strong values, impressive resources and inspiring life experiences often reach their 30s and find themselves single for varying reasons, but with everything that they want from life but a child.Being in a position where parenting with a romantic partner is not a possibility shouldn’t close doors, it should open them, and that is the option that coparents.com wants to give its members.
Why would I have a child with a stranger?
You won’t by any means be having a child with a stranger. Choosing a co-parent does not happen overnight, and by choosing a co-parent you will be choosing somebody with whom you share values, similar goals and parenting outlook in order to bring a child into the world.Before you bring your child into the world however, the aim of co-parenting is to get to know one another and form a friendship or personal relationship on which you can base your parenting. The most successful co-parenting partnerships come from co-parents who spend a lot of time getting to know each other before beginning to process of insemination, pregnancy and child upbringing.
What is the difference between a co-parents and a ‘known donor’?
A co-parent is somebody with whom you share all parenting responsibilities from finances to education, religion and custody, whereas a known donor is somebody who donates sperm or an egg in order for you to have a child, but might not necessarily want to have a part in the upbringing of the child.The known donor will be somebody known to you, you might meet them through coparents.com or you might have known them before. Knowing your donor will enable you to ask all of the questions which you want to know about the natural parent of your child, such as these examples on our blog.
Who will be the legal parents?
That depends on your preferences and the arrangement that you have with your co-parent. Depending on whether you are two single individuals or two same-sex couples, in the United States it is legal for up to three parents to be named as legal parents on a child’s birth certificate.
36 thoughts on “Find a Co-Parent Match”
07/02/2022 at
Hey there!! I am a 48 year old, single woman, preparing for IVF. Neither the eggs nor the sperm have been procured yet but I am open to ideas and may be interested in finding a younger person or couple that would like to co-parent with me.
06/03/2022 at
I’ve always wanted to be a father and after 7 years of marriage my husband just told me he never wanted to be a father and wanted me to give it up too. So we’ve decided it’s time to end and it is time for me to focus on being happy……I would love to find a Coparent who is down to earth and ready to build a great relationship…….35 from the New England area in the hospitality industry……,,,,,
06/03/2022 at
Good evening all. I’m a bachelor, maybe older with a younger look by my own choosing. I would like to have a child as a coparent with a female, and help raise the child in a great environment. I choice coparentjng because you get women of today want same age mates. Who can blame them. Again I need information. US only Carrie’s 4% of the worlds population. That’s weak
05/19/2022 at
Couple in NC looking to coparent with lesbian couple.
05/11/2022 at
I’m looking for a woman to co parent with. I am married and my wife can’t have more children. She is 10 years older than me .
05/04/2022 at
Looking to have a child with someone who will love them as much as I do. Very stable in all aspects in my life, and looking for someone who wants the same.
04/13/2022 at
I am 41 years old I ain’t got no kids and what I want in life to find a woman with no stranger text that I can have a kid by and I will take care of my kids and I can’t be well taking care of that’s one thing a woman should know I just need to find someone that will to be adult ever agreement and for me to have a kid
03/30/2022 at
Hi I’m 34 years old Asian female wanted to be a mother all my life.
I’m married but my husband can not give me kids because he have a health problem.
I’m looking for 30 to 40 Aussie male blue eyes blonde hair Donor looking for help guys 🙏 please make my dream come true 🙏
03/17/2022 at
Hi!
37 y/o healthy female in Los Angeles. Looking for an open donor or co-parent with a great human being. Someone with a great sense of humor and good genes.
01/06/2022 at
Someone questioned also,why around here,it seemed like ones could have around here but live elsewhere and looking to wed.however persons gave a fuss like ones could not go back together.whats up with that?have a clue?
01/06/2022 at
Still looking for co..doesn’t seem like to much here ,however if others are watching and waiting…(female seeking male,that is.)
01/03/2022 at
I would like to co-parent with a responsible adult close by. I live in New York, rockland county. I’m African-American. I would prefer to co-parent with someone outside my race. I’m 26 years old.
12/26/2021 at
I’m interested in becoming a parent and am willing to co parent so if any woman is ready to become a mother but is scared to raise a child alone I am willing to be that man.
12/09/2021 at
Wanting to donate sperm
11/22/2021 at
I am an adult female going through ovarian rejuvenation. Looking for a partner for a coparenting agreement.
Me: Educated, well-travelled, self-employed, former education administrator and Montessori Pre-K teacher with a high IQ, close family and support system, black. Planning pregnancy at the end of 2022 or beginning of 2023. Kind, loving, supportive. Raised nephews and nieces so didn’t have a chance to have a child thé traditional way.
11/18/2021 at
I am a 37byear old male looking to have a baby. I live in Southern Ontario.
10/27/2021 at
Looking to meet a guy to co parent with in Houston Tx. I’m a ELA teacher and have a 7 month old son.
02/03/2022 at
Hello Geralyn
Can you tell me more about your situation.
10/17/2021 at
Hi I am a 40 yr old woman from NY and have a successful career but would like to have a baby. I’m looking for someone to coparent with. Anyone from the NY area?
10/11/2021 at
Hi I’m a 30 year old male who wants to have a child
Ever since I was a boy I wanted to have a son im a single gay but very discreet and private male.i know I would make a great father .please lets go half on everything regarding our child!
09/27/2021 at
My wife can’t have kids and I really want one.
09/24/2021 at
Any females needing help having kids I’m 25 and single and if any couples or women need help starting a family let me know
09/16/2021 at
Seeking a woman or female couple wanting a baby. In Wisconsin or northern IL is preferred.
08/23/2021 at
Hey I’m 26 years old trying to have A Baby before i turn 27. Most people say I’m A beautiful girl but can’t find anyone to have A Baby with me. Could some please help, I’m looking for A black/Jamaican male .
06/12/2021 at
My husband and I are looking to adopt/co-parent. I’m a pediatric nurse/nurse practitioner (graduate this year). My husband is a Chef. We have two beautiful dogs and lots of love to share.
06/04/2021 at
I am 10 years older than my husband and have 3 grown kids. I can’t have any more children and don’t want to neccissarily raise anymore kids. But he wants a kid. We are interested in him co-parenting with someone. My husband would make a great father
06/03/2021 at
My partner has a child from her previous marriage. She can’t. The doctors said that I could have a baby, so my wife allowed me to have another daughter. Please any women interested contact me
04/27/2021 at
Hello,
I am 38 and do not have a child and would like a partner that wants one as well.
Dee
07/12/2021 at
I am looking for coparent , I have a stable life.
Where are you from?
Martin
12/28/2021 at
Can we talk?
02/22/2021 at
I’m married, but my wife doesn’t want to have kids. However, she is okay if I can assist another family help have family.
02/11/2021 at
Hi, I’m a 37 year old man and wanted to be a father all my life. I don’t do relationship s all that well, I really want to be a co parent with another responsible adult female. I would rather be a co parent than a sperm donor
04/21/2021 at
Hello, where do you live? What do you do ?
I would like to chat in private, thanks
01/12/2021 at
I’m a mother of one and I’m not ready yet to be a mother my son is a year 7months old and would like him to have parents who would raise him and love him and adopt him
Yours sincerely R Mashamaite
01/18/2021 at
Hi Julia,
I am interested in adoption.
12/05/2020 at
Interested in becoming a parent any way possible I’m unable to have children my husband is Able