Find a Co-Parent Match

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Co-parenting doesn’t have to be the result of an ugly separation or divorce; in fact co-parenting is often a very agreeable part of gay or lesbian parenting. If you are in a same-sex relationship and you want to become parents, you might want to consider co-parenting before getting involved in a process such as surrogacy or artificial insemination which can be expensive, time-consuming and complicated.

Get started today by reading profiles on and consider advertisements from prospective co-parents. Our co-parenting forum is your safe space to discuss views with possible co-parents regarding conception, pregnancy and upbringing, and depending on your circumstances you can search through advertisements for a lesbian or gay couple, a single woman or a single man. All of this depends on your preferences regarding your co-parent.

Once you’ve found your ideal co-parent(s), we strongly advise you to develop and agree to a signed co-parenting contract, as suggested in our blog, and then decide on how you want to go about insemination, whether that is artificial or natural. You’ll be surprised at how many happy gay and lesbian coparenting stories started with a home insemination.

An illustration depicting diverse co-parents connecting and discussing over a table. They represent different types of families including same-sex couple

How Does Co-Parenting Work?

Co-parenting is the philosophy that two (or more) individuals with non romantic coparenting attachment get together to have a child. It is often the chosen method of having a child by same-sex couples and single individuals, in order to have a partner with whom to share responsibility of the child without the stress and challenges of a romantic relationship.

Same sex co-parenting:

Same-sex co-parenting could involve one gay couple and one lesbian couple, or one same-sex couple with a single individual. This is the ideal solution for same-sex couples wanting to have a baby without going down the route of a donor or surrogate, and enables the couple to share responsibility with another.The options for same-sex couple include sharing the child between two households close together, where both couples, or the couple and the individual, provide equal parenting, finances and responsibility as well as custody of the child.

The other option is to have the single person move into the same home as the couple, either as a short-term or long-term arrangement, in order to more closely organise every point of the process from insemination, through pregnancy and into the upbringing of the child.These options are completely up to you and your co-parent depending on how you want to go about your child’s upbringing.

Modern co-parenting:

Non-romantic co-parenting is the journey chosen by two single individuals who wish to have a child without the ties of a romantic relationship. The co-parents will usually share equal responsibility of the child including finances, education, custody and all other aspects of the child’s upbringing. The child usually grows up in two different households, but the platonic couple could also choose to share a house in order to make the first years of their child’s life more seamless.

Frequently asked questions about co-parenting

Finding a suitable co-parent match online?
Around 20% of all adults never have a child of their own, and for some people this is entirely by choice, but for others this is by circumstance. Professional people with strong values, impressive resources and inspiring life experiences often reach their 30s and find themselves single for varying reasons, but with everything that they want from life but a child.Being in a position where parenting with a romantic partner is not a possibility shouldn’t close doors, it should open them, and that is the option that wants to give its members.

Why would I have a child with a stranger?

You won’t by any means be having a child with a stranger. Choosing a co-parent does not happen overnight, and by choosing a co-parent you will be choosing somebody with whom you share values, similar goals and parenting outlook in order to bring a child into the world.Before you bring your child into the world however, the aim of co-parenting is to get to know one another and form a friendship or personal relationship on which you can base your parenting. The most successful co-parenting partnerships come from co-parents who spend a lot of time getting to know each other before beginning to process of insemination, pregnancy and child upbringing.

What is the difference between a co-parents and a ‘known donor’?

A co-parent is somebody with whom you share all parenting responsibilities from finances to education, religion and custody, whereas a known donor is somebody who donates sperm or an egg in order for you to have a child, but might not necessarily want to have a part in the upbringing of the child.The known donor will be somebody known to you, you might meet them through or you might have known them before. Knowing your donor will enable you to ask all of the questions which you want to know about the natural parent of your child, such as these examples on our blog.

Who will be the legal parents?

That depends on your preferences and the arrangement that you have with your co-parent. Depending on whether you are two single individuals or two same-sex couples, in the United States it is legal for up to three parents to be named as legal parents on a child’s birth certificate.

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  2. Hello,

    I am a 28 year old Hispanic female looking to co parent. I am from the east coast, but open to moving for the right connection. I am a warm, loving, supportive person who everyone comes to when they need someone to be there for them. Everyone has told me I’d be a great mom, and love to do things like arts & crafts, children party planning, and teaching. Leave a comment if interested.

  3. im a 61 y/o man on disability i am financially secure i would love to meet a lady at least 35 to have one or more kids with i cannot raise the baby but could help the average death age in my family is 84 so i think i may have a few more years to help plus i have a home in alabama that is paid for that i would leave my child and a substantual savings account plus a half million in life insurance if this might interest you leave me a message

  4. I am 38 years young. I have a great career which I love. I always thought I would find a husband and have children, unfortunately that is not in the cards as of yet. I am native American and I live in Michigan. I am looking for a sperm donor or a co-parenting situation. I do have a boyfriend but he cant have any children. Please someone help me make my dream come true.

  5. I’m 32 in Missouri. I’m not married and don’t think that’s a path I want to take for a while. I do not have an interest in birthing, but I am interested in coparenting with another woman, or a gay couple.

  6. Hello,
    I am a 35 year old woman. Never been married and no kids. I’ve always believed I would wait to have kids until after I found the right person and got married. I don’t think that is in the cards for me, but I’ve always known I’m meant to be mom. I’d like to find someone interested in co-parenting with me. I have a demanding job so I’d like someone willing to find a manageable arrangement for both of us.

  7. Looking for a female to co parent with my husband I can’t have any more children and I would like for him to have kid of his own

  8. I’m 37, African female, seeking someone to co parent with. I have a postgraduate degree and have a job that I love. I also have old fashioned values and would prefer someone with similar. I live in Nigeria.

  9. I am 38 year old male looking for a women to coparent a child with. My mother died last year and I realize I want children now more than just about anything and I always said I wasn’t having kids till I met the right person because my parent divorced when I was 3 but the way I see it I don’t want to waste anymore years waiting to find the right girl for me when I am loosing out on time to be a father so I would love a relationship if there was a connection but right now if I can find someone who lives near me who want to co parent and have a baby with me. I live in the Bay Area CA

    1. Hi, i just turned 40 years (African)and have been diagnosed with fibroids, i always thought i would get a husband to get children with but now time is 100% not on my side. i recently moved to Scarborough CA, from Africa and i have read your profile and liked it.

  10. Professional male 47 years old. No kids yet due to wife changing her mind after marriage to pursue a career. I have always wanted children to pass down legacy. Interested in co-parenting where I’d have less percentage of time but can assist financially and contribute to a safe and wonderful life. Prefer to co-parent with someone who has traditional conservative values and no against hunting, fishing, and teaching a child to work hard, be kind to people, and never give up.

    1. HI,
      Just seen your post and wondering if you are still interested in co-parenting since it look like it was posted in January 2023.
      Am Christine recently turned 40 years have been diagnosed with fibroids and I have to get pregnant as the look has ticked.

  11. Hi
    I’m looking for a sperm donor and very interested in co-parenting. Is this how it works? I just leave a comment and hopefully someone responds? Lol

  12. 31 and single. Have been ready to become a mother for SO many years but have not been so lucky as of yet. Looking for a man to conceive the natural way and possibly co-parent together (I want my child to have an active father in their life but will raise him/her all on my own if necessary).

  13. Hi I’m 45 yrs intellegent as psycicly intune spiritualy, bless e d loving good looking and mire. l n want to have a child for you 2 ladies or ? I would love an offspring . Gold coast q l d.

  14. Hello , I’m looking for a sperm donor for my wife and I . I’m using this platform to see if there are any donors that are willing to donate. If so please kindly get in touch with me

  15. My name’s Dwight, I’m 30 I have a good career and I want to have a baby. I haven’t had any luck with love, and I’m open to taking starting a family into my own hands. Ideally, we could be great friends and co-parents

  16. I’m a 54 year-old latin man looking for a co parent from abroad. I have always wanted to become a father but it hasn’t been possible

    1. HI,
      I recently turned 40, African is my race, live in Canada. I am currently looking to get pregnant as I have been diagnosed with fibroids and time is not on my side thought i would have gotten a husband by now but it is what it is so looking to co-parent with someone.

  17. I am a straight handsome 35 year old black male. Parents are Nigerian. I am truck driver own my own, and financially stable. I want to find someone to have a baby with

  18. Am 43 and looking to have a child. Always wanted to wait but the women date now already have children or can’t have kids. Like to meet single female looking to have a child.

  19. Willing to be a sperm donor, but also looking for co-parenting possibilities. Same sex financially stable couple here.

  20. I would like to have a child but my Fiancé has children that are adults now and she cant have anymore children. I am a young 50 year old white male that would like to experience co-parenting and raising a child because I never had an opportunity to before.

  21. Looking to have a child with any race female! I’m a 21 yr old very healthy blk male!!! Looking to co parent I’m located around southeast Missouri!

  22. My husband and I are looking to have a baby, we are looking for a healthy, educated young woman who doesn’t smoke or drink that can either donate or co-parent with us. Open to all possible options. We are in the NYC area.

  23. I am a 27 year old African American mother of 1. I would like to have another child before I am 30. I prefer the coparent route. If anyone is interested, contact me here.