• Posted by ___XXX on 18 November 2016 at 10:08

    Hi

    I’m from Sydney and I thought I would start this thread as a place to chat as I’m not a premium member yet.

    I think having a family is an incredible life goal.

    Please tell me about what brought you to make your choice and if I can help?

    ___XXX replied 7 years, 10 months ago 2 Members · 7 Replies
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  • ___XXX

    Member
    20 November 2016 at 08:38

    I’m currently looking for a donor.

    I’m divorced single and decided to take this path.
    My dream is to be a mother and I’ve always seen myself as being a single mother.
    I have great family and friends support who are by my side to do it this way and are all aware and there for me.

    The child we have a lot of male role models in his/her life

    I’d much rather do it this way than be in a relationship and have a child and if it ends have to split custody. I’ve seen way to many ugly custody battles on social media that the child in the middle doesn’t deserve.

    Why have you decided to donate?

    Thank you, look forward to talking to you more

  • JayBee

    Member
    25 November 2016 at 01:25

    Hi there,
    I am a single 38 year old woman. I have recently found out that my fertility is low and am now looking for a sperm donor in Aus.
    I have tried twice in Scandinavia to become pregnant and when this failed I went for fertility testing and was told I should begin IVF as soon as possible.
    I have a low ovarian reserve for my age but am otherwise healthy.
    I was particularly interested in your profile because of your heritage. I would like to know more about the “co-parenting” part of your profile? What do you envision?

  • ___XXX

    Member
    8 December 2016 at 09:43

    Hello Meurp

    I have decided to look at donating because I love family. I think that starting a family is such a powerful point in your life and I find it tragic that a lot of women do not have the opportunity to start a family.

    I was easier by a single mother and I believe that happiness and family bonds are not effected by the loss or separation of a traditional couple.

    A strong single parent is worth a heck of a lot more than an unhappy couple.

    It sounds like you have had quite a journey to get to this point, have you tried contacting sperm banks like ivf Australia?

    What is the perfect way for you to raise your child and why? (What do you see as your parenting style and also what would you tell the child about their conception?

  • ___XXX

    Member
    8 December 2016 at 10:37

    Hi Jaybee

    I’m not really sure about the coparent situation.
    I’m open to discussions about the subject though which is why I ticked it.

    I wouldn’t mind a coparent arrangement because I like the idea of being a part of a child’s life. But I’m not looking to support someone to be a stay at home mother or to provide for a child while they are not in my care.

    I like the idea of updates or visits on holidays.

    But really the concept is not a requirement. What sort of arrangement are you looking for?

  • ___XXX

    Member
    31 January 2017 at 13:12

    I got your wink and your profile is really good, but I saw that you live in Australia. I am in the States so I do not know how that would work. haha I guess I can tell you my story anyway.

    I’m 25 years old and I recently had my second ovarian surgery (recently as in last week) and my doctor predicts that I’ll need it again in the future as my ovarian tissue is prone to tumor formation and they will need to keep removing them. I am looking to become a mother very soon and then I’ll just have my ovaries removed because I cannot keep going through this!

    Growing up, I always imagined myself being a mother and I could just picture my children, but I’ve never really imagined what my husband would be like. Now that I’m dealing with these issues, it’s a no-brainer that I’d choose having the child without Mr. Right over waiting on Mr. Right (who very well may never come) and not having any children. I’ve tried the traditional method of just dating and waiting and everyone who’s my age is suggesting that we wait for years. It’s completely understandable in most cases, but I’m afraid I don’t have that kind of time.

  • ___XXX

    Member
    6 February 2017 at 04:05

    Hi Yamihere

    Thanks for telling me your story. My heart really goes put to you having to go through a medical issue that could effect your ability to get pregnant is really scary.

    I sent you a wink because we are both islamic 😉 and i wanted to discuss with you how you manage your faith when dealing with the issue of sperm donation.
    I can see that your medical problems are you driving factor in creating a family and i think that you are doing the right thing.

    I wish we were in the same country so that i could help you. I think that we would be very compatible I desperatly want children as well.
    My dream life has always involved children.

  • ___XXX

    Member
    8 February 2017 at 04:17

    Hi Yamihere

    Thank you for sharing your story with me. My heart really goes out to you and I wish we were closer so that I could help you.
    I sent you a wink because we are both islamic and I was interested to hear your story. I identify with your vision of having children because I feel the same way I always Imagined having a large family to love and care for.

    I believe that your quest to start your family will be rewarded and that you will be succesful. I don’t really think that dating and searching for friends is always the best way to start a family because often it leads you to someone whom you really like to hang out with. But when i comes time to create your family they are not ready or the type of parent who compliments your style. basically I think a lot of people are fair weather friends and not stable partners who want to go through the challenges of raising children.

    I’m just talking from my own experience here.

    Best of luck with your search 🙂

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