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Single female looking to co parent male in South Florida
I feel weird writing this, but I always wanted to have two kids; God had a different plan for me then. I am co parenting with my daughter’s father, we were together on and off for 5 years, it didn’t work out between us, and we are co-parenting quite well. We are both very involved in our daughter’s school activities, and in her life in general.
I am 39 years old, healthy with a career, and seeking a male that I can co-parent with in the South Florida area. It’s important for the child to have both parents in his/her life.
I would have preferred to do this the traditional way, but it seems like dating nowadays isn’t what it used to be.
Please reply only if you are serious to be an active parent.
Preferably a non drug user, healthy, with a stable job, financially stable, one who has a great relationship with his family.
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I would love to be able to help you. Unfortunately, living in a different country makes it a bit more difficult
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Great post. You seem pretty great here.
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Hey Romy! Would love to hear more from you 🙂
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Today is my first day on here as well. You know, why should we feel weird about this? I think it’s great. Which people should feel weird about is spending thousands of dollars on catering, gowns, and a one day ceremony for pop and circumstance and tradition. Just so they can usually end up with the wrong person and get divorced anyway. I just turned 45 a few weeks ago and I’m in Central Florida. I am fully capable of being a full-time dad because, after being in several car accidents and having surgeries, I’m on disability and do not work full-time. But I have so much love to give and kids are the most amazing things in the world. I should let you know that I am definitely not looking for a monogamous relationship, as I am bisexual, more towards the gay side of the spectrum. But I’m very private about my life and don’t broadcast my personal business. Not that I’m ashamed of anything. I’m really looking for somebody I can be friends with, to coparent with and not have to deal with any of that Crap that my parents did that never worked for them. Making sure your child knows that he or she is loved unconditionally is the utmost important thing that any parent could ever do. If you see my pictures, I just took them today and that is how young I look. I’m a rock musician, or was more when I was younger. I love being 45 and passing for 30. It’s kind of like the best of both worlds with the wisdom of experience and the look of youth somewhat. You said you were 39? To my understanding, the average woman’s fertility drops about 50% at 38-39, But most can still get pregnant within a year. I assume if you’re on the site you’ve already taken the initiative to have all of those necessary tests done. Forgive me if I’m being forward with that. I just did some research before I came on here. Well today is my first day here, this is an exactly a spur of the moment thing. I have been feeling like I’ve been wanting kids for a while, but just not a wife, a girlfriend, or even a husband or boyfriend. Did I mention I’m a musician? I never finished college other than an associates degree in liberal arts. I do have a 160 IQ, now I sound like I’m trying to sell myself. My weakest qualities are my lack of coordination and depth perception issues. I am not the guy to teach a kid how to throw or catch a ball very well. But I am definitely your man to teach him or her how to swim, or how to play guitar.. I’ve never been one about strict traditional gender roles anyway. I’m very easy-going and easy to get along with. I can go from one extreme of talking your ear off to the other of being silent for days when I’m in a mellow mode. The better people get to know me, the more surprised they are how quiet I am. I think it’s a Florida thing because, at least in Central Florida, people are not very good conversationalists. I know so Florida is a different world, but up here, there are far more sketchy people than I have ever seen. I grew up in the Boston area and then lives in San Francisco, so this was major culture shock. I’m in the Marion/Lake/Sumter County vortex in between Ocala and the villages, an hour from Orlando, an hour from Gainesville, an hour from Tampa. My name is Rob, by the way. I’m half Italian, and the other half is a mixture of Scottish, Irish, and English. The hair is blonde highlighted… I’m always changing things up. My most embarrassing guilty pleasure is binge watching daytime soaps on Hulu or CBS all access. Some of my favorite music is David Bowie, heart, Alice In Chains, garbage, Pink Floyd, Concrete Blonde, the Beatles, and of course, myself, Rob Anthony Dire, Which if you were interested, you can find my solo album on iTunes. That was a little joke. In fact, the only people in this universe I cannot stand are a narcissist and sociopaths. People who have children for their own personal gain, to Parade around like trophies, And treat as fashion accessories. Sadly, I watched my former best friend Mary one, and she is somebody who makes mommy dearest look like mother Theresa and talks about her children as fashion accessories. It was when I saw her and allow her jealousy of me consume her so much that it became more important to her than her sons emotional well-being, that it made me realize and treat as fashion accessories. Sadly, I watched my former best friend Mary one, and she is somebody who makes mommy dearest look like mother Theresa and talks about her children as fashion accessories. It was when I saw her allow her jealousy of me consume her so much that it became more important to her than her sons emotional well-being, that it made me realize How much I love the kid and how much it broke my heart that his own mother didn’t care enough, and his father is so afraid because she is so manipulative and convinced him that she will get soul custody, that he stays with her out of fear. And it was losing my surrogate nephew a little over a year ago that led me on this path to discovering that I want to have a child of my own to love and instead of making the same Mistakes my parents made with me, I am going to do everything differently, everything I have ever seen done wrong to a child I am going to do right. Of course I will make mistakes, but straight, gay, Trans, sexual, artistic,Mistakes my parents made with me, I am going to do everything differently, everything I have ever seen done wrong to a child I am going to do right. Of course I will make mistakes, but straight, gay, Trans, asexual, autistic Athletic, artistic, no matter how they turn out, they will always know that I couldn’t love them anymore no matter what they did and that they will always be perfect to me. I grew up as an only child after my brother died as a preemie, and turning 45 this past month made me realize that now is the time to start Making plans. I don’t want to be 80 years old when my kid graduates college. I’m sorry if I rambled too long, but there was just something honest about your message I felt like I could speak freely with you. Please ask me anything you’d like to know. Tell me a little more specifically what you’re looking for, if you have any criteria. I’m not one of those people that has a checklist or some set expectations of a personality type or how someone looks on paper making plans. I don’t want to be 80 years old when my kid graduates college. I’m sorry if I’ve rambled too long, but there was a something honest about your message I feel like I can speak freely with you. Please ask me anything you would like to know. Tell me a little more specifically what you’re looking for, if you have any criteria. I’m not one of those people that has a checklist or some set expectations of personality type or how someone looks on paper. The most important thing to me is knowing that the person I have my child with the love the care as much as I do and we will raise the kid together with the most important thing always being that they know how much they are loved, and how important it is that they love others. I don’t smoke cigarettes, I quit over 10 years ago. If I drink a beer, I might have one or two at a wedding or after funeral which is sometimes once every three years. I don’t smoke pot, but I don’t mind if you do. I’ll be honest and say I have done my share of experimenting with drugs in the distant past when I was in bands, but that is nothing I would ever Have anything to do with while raising a child. I hate politics, and I am registered as an independent, but tend to lean liberal. But if I like somebody and no we do not agree, I don’t talk about it. Organized religion is not important to me, in fact it is important to me that my child is not raised with dogma. I was, and it cost me decades of tormenting myself over excepting my sexuality. I believe in spirituality, and most definitely in morality. I think one of the biggest problems today is that as families have gotten less religious, they have not compensated by teaching moral compass is to their children. So, if I haven’t bored you or freak you out, I’d love to hear about you. May I ask are you looking to conceive in vitro or the old fashion way? Honestly, I could do either. I say I’m bisexual towards the gay spectrum but I’m very open minded and don’t fall into labels very easily. If you were somebody who has a high status job and certain class of friends, I might not be the kind of person that they would approve of because like I said, “on paper,“ I’m not necessarily the best candidate. But I guarantee you that You’ve probably never met anyone like me before. To some that’s a good thing, to others, it’s like fingernails on a chalkboard. I guess when I’m a little bit nervous, I ramble sometimes. It doesn’t help that I’m using voice dictation also. And I don’t think I can actually directly contact anybody until tomorrow. So I hope to hear from you
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Sounds like you are well grounded. I’d love to talk and go from there
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