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Extremely needy and clingy co-parent ISO another co-parent who desires that
34 white Male USA here, 6’4.
I’m extremely needy and clingy, and looking for a coparent who can handle that in another person. Lots of interaction, talk, activities, and clinginess. Also looking to have a larger family if possible.
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That’s not too needy or clingy, that sounds pretty normal
>I think so, but society seems to dislike “clinginess”.
Are you anti birth control, or would you be willing to use birth control if you had a lot of kids and needed a break before the next pregnancy? Or use the family planning method or something?
>Sure, I just think chemical birth control isn’t good. Other forms are fine.
What do you like to talk about? What are you interested in/what are your hobbies?
>Everything and anything. I like a lot of different things, reading, writing, tennis, philosophy, electronics, traveling/adventuring from time to time. I’m a bit of a nerd.
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You don’t sound too nerdy, and it’s good to have interests. What kind of books do you like to read? What do you like to write about?
I love horses and horseback riding, hiking, being outside, and reading. My favorite holiday is Christmas, and I love fall and winter. I really love when the leaves change colors in the fall! I volunteer on weekends at a rescue and I love that, since I love animals. Do you have any pets?
You never know, maybe by the end of next year you’ll be expecting your first baby! 😊
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You don’t sound too nerdy, and it’s good to have interests. What kind of books do you like to read? What do you like to write about?
> Lol thanks. Hm, it takes a lot for fiction to grip me, I usually read nonfiction books. But I love it >when it does, it’s just so rare. I guess I like reality and see through the thin veneer of most >fictional >authors, but I do think it could be better than nonfiction (since anything is possible) >if done well! I also write nonfictional, but I do have an unpublished novella that’s fictional!
I love horses and horseback riding, hiking, being outside, and reading. My favorite holiday is Christmas, and I love fall and winter. I really love when the leaves change colors in the fall! I volunteer on weekends at a rescue and I love that, since I love animals. Do you have any pets?
>Same. Christmas is my favorite holiday (If I didn’t mention that before). No pets currently, but >I’m both a dog and cat person!
You never know, maybe by the end of next year you’ll be expecting your first baby!
>Aww thank you! It’s crazily difficult finding the right person to undertake such an important life >journey with for that. I wish the same for you!
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Are you going to publish your novella?
Where do you live? I’m in the northeast in ME. Do you only want to have babies with your wife, or it doesn’t matter much? I want to be best friends with my husband before we marry, since I think that’s a pretty important part of a relationship.
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Are you going to publish your novella?
>Unlikely, I’ll probably just leave it unpublished.
Where do you live? I’m in the northeast in ME. Do you only want to have babies with your wife, or it doesn’t matter much? I want to be best friends with my husband before we marry, since I think that’s a pretty important part of a relationship.
>I can’t imagine becoming a dad prior to becoming a husband!! I’m in the NE! USA.
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Where in the northeast are you? I love living in the northeast, especially in the fall.
Would you get up in the middle of the night for the babies, or would you expect your wife to do it all?
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That’s a good question! I’m willing to help out, but if our baby is crying in the middle of the night it might want the comfort of its mother (not always, but generally). Particularly if breastfeeding (which I greatly prefer if possible). So I don’t think 0-1 ages can really be 50/50 mom/dad responsibility/involvement. It’s just not how biology works! I think it goes back who’s got the bigger career, if my wife out earns me it might make sense to for me to be more involved in childcare, but if I’m out earning her considerably it makes more sense for her to be more involved in childcare. Just from a financial perspective. And regarding location, I’m several hundred miles southwest of Maine.
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What do you do for work? Do you enjoy it? Would you want your wife to quit her job to be at home full time with your babies, or would she still work and the babies would go to daycare?
How long do you want your babies breastfed for? If your wife is pumping, would you also bottle feed the baby?
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I work for myself, it’s quite alright but also sometimes I’m not quite sure about the management. Whatever my future wife and I do, I sure hope it doesn’t involve a daycare unless we own one (passively though, lol). Whether she quits or not depends on the circumstances. I don’t know exactly, however long as is normal and natural by doctor’s recommendations. Sure, of course I’d help out!
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lol not sure about the management 😂
What sorts of values do you want to teach your kids? Do you want them to believe in Santa, the Easter bunny, etc? I think it’s important for little kids to believe in magic like that. And as they get older, I’d want them to do volunteering.
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As soon as I find my person!
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That’s not too needy or clingy, that sounds pretty normal 🙂
Are you anti birth control, or would you be willing to use birth control if you had a lot of kids and needed a break before the next pregnancy? Or use the family planning method or something?
What do you like to talk about? What are you interested in/what are your hobbies?
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And how soon do you want to start having babies?
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How needy and clingy? lol
How many babies do you want?
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There isn’t a limit on the number of children I’d have, I’d simply not use birth control and however many we have is however many we have (my future wife and I)! Now clinginess is another issue, lol. I am very clingy. It’s hard to describe “how” clingy I am. I am needy and clingy. I like the presence of another. In the same room, house, restaurant, car, sidewalk, next to me on a plane, whatever. I also like to yap. But I am very loyal and loving. And I’d be okay if I or my future wife went away for a trip. Occasionally people do need to separate, temporarily! So not a bad neediness or clinginess, but a loving neediness or clinginess!
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