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Lets add to your family or start a new one. I will help raise it.
Let’s have kids together and I will help raise them. And your current kids if you have any. I am currently on SSDI and get 1400 a month. I will use all of my income towards the child/supporting the house hold. I don’t do drugs, drink or smoke. I don’t spend my money on stupid stuff. I would like to be a stay at home dad, so I can watch our kid and not have to pay for or worry about child care. I could look into part time work as they get older.
I met a girl when I was 20 and was engaged for 8 years. I was never blessed with a kid. We broke up at 28/29. I’ll be 31 in 2 months and feel lost in life with no direction or purpose. I met a girl on a dating app two weeks ago who said she was looking for a family man, that didn’t lie or cheat. After talking to her for awhile, she said she had no interest in a relationship and was focusing on her 3 kids and current pregnancy. I spent the last 7 days at her house. I cooked daily, ran the vacuum. Did the dishes. Scrubbed the toilet, sink, tub. Did the cat litter every day. Brought her 45 pounds of cat food and 125 pounds of cat litter because she had none left. took the kids to the park and played for hours, the cat cafe. I met her brother and her cousin and they all said they couldn’t believe how fast I connected to their 8 year old daughter as she isn’t trusting of men. Unfortunately me and the mom just didn’t get along. The first 3 days made me think it was going to work out. I offered her 500 a month to live with her and offered to watch her kids and new born when it was born and she went back to work. All while sleeping on an air mattress in the livingroom because she didn’t want her couch ruined and didn’t have a room for me. On Wednesday she bought a 6 dollar family size bag of Doritos for tacos the next night. Thursday morning when everyone was getting ready for school, her oldest asked if she could have a few Doritos for the bus ride to school. It was a small Ziploc with maybe 12 chips. While they were at school I get confronted “did you open the Doritos?”. I told her why I did. She ripped me a new a hole. “Those were for tacos tonight, and tonight only.”. “You should have asked me for permission before giving them to her, you and her went above my head. I am still her mom and parent. All decisions need to be made through me.” am I the A** Hole? She was concerned about running out of Doritos for dinner and I told her I didn’t even plan on having any of them. And guess what. After the dinner was over, only one person touched the bag of Doritos. The main thing that was pissing her off, and making her swear at me is I was smirking/smiling when she was yelling. And she says “do you think this is a joke? I’m trying to have a serious conversation”. I told her why I did this, it’s a nervous reaction because I don’t know what else to do. I told her I’d work on it, but ended up doing it again the next disagreement and she says “I thought you said you were going to work on this?” And sounds infuriated. Meanwhile I told her it wasn’t even been a day and the change isn’t going to happen overnight. Long story short, I ended up packing up my stuff and taking an Uber home that night. I left most of the stuff I brought that were for the house like paper towels, Clorox wipes, soaps, food, cat litter etc.But all the past 7 days with her kids showed me was how bad I want to be a dad and raise kids 😭. I don’t know how men treat their children’s mom like shit. I don’t treat anyone like shit, unless they do it first. And even then, I’m doing my best to always be kind to people, even if they aren’t kind to me. She was extremely rude to me the last few days and I didn’t say a single unkind thing to her. I guess she said her ex use to smirk during disagreements before beating the sh** out of her, so she was getting defensive and had PTSD. I’ve never physically harmed anyone in my life, and told her that from the second I found out she had been physically abused.
I’m not expecting anything more than a friendship, but if we get to know eachother and you’d like more than a friendship, ultimately I would like that and am looking for more than a friendship. I would like to be a father one day, even if it’s just a step father. I had a step father in my life since I was 4. I’m now 30. I call him dad, and haven’t seen my real dad in over 15 years. If you currently have no kids and are wanting them. We can go into full time baby making mode.
I have act 33/34 clearances, no criminal history, child clearances. Etc. dm me if you want to chat and get to know each other. Hell maybe we could pitch this as a TV show idea to a tv network? “Live in nanny desperate for love.” They have love at first sight, 90 day fiancee, the bachelor. Etc. I’m doing this with the hope of finding love, but ultimately if I just get to be a part of your kids lives and help raise them. as an “uncle”. Or “god father”. Or whatever, that’s fine with me too. I have my own place, my own lease. I don’t *need* this or a place to go. Im simply ready for change. I’ve had no luck with dating apps or meeting people the traditional way since ending my last relationship this past summer. and guess what? If it isn’t working out and you want me gone, I will leave with proper notice. But I’m very easy to get along with, very cooperative, loving and understanding 😇.
My inspiration for this post and idea? My favorite movie.. The Sound of Music.. Maria.. a Nun of the abby. Goes to be a governess to 7 children for former Navy hero, Captain Vontrapp (my username inspiration). Although a bumpy start, she brings music back into their lives, and they fall in love and get married
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Hi Vontrap
I am spream donor with 2 successful IVF process result . One in New York and overseas ( Lima – Peru).
I passed 2 genetic test ( All good)
I passed 2 health test ( All good)
I passed 2 fertility check ( All good)
I have good health and also healthy lifestyle.
I am in New York. You are welcome to New York and also i can travel too.
Happy to be part of your journey becoming a parent.
Regards
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