Many single women think that because they’re pregnant, dating is off the table. One of the reasons behind this assumption is that they already have so many other things to think of, such as going to medical appointments, preparing for labor and delivery, decorating the nursery, purchasing all the baby items, etc. On top of that, the majority of them feel judged for dating while pregnant.
However, regardless of whether you’re looking for romance, sex, a father for your child or for a significant other, dating during pregnancy is still possible and is entirely your own decision. Whatever your situation (whether the biological father of the child is estranged or you have decided to have a baby alone with donor insemination), there’s no need to worry. There are plenty of men who are more than happy to date expectant mothers. Some of them are even looking for a partner with whom to start a family.
Dating and expecting a baby are two things which are far from incompatible. No matter whether you just want to have a little bit of fun, or you’re looking for a more serious relationship, read on to discover our advice for when you’re pregnant and want to date.
Where can I find dates when I’m pregnant?
Register with dating websites dedicated to pregnant women
Pregnant or not, finding dates can be a challenge for everyone. Not only is meeting someone interesting in a bar, a dinner party or at work difficult, so too is sparking up a conversation with a stranger. Add in a bun in the oven, and things seem more complicated than ever!
Today, most people have registered with a dating website at least once in their life. And now, thanks to high demand, many of these sites have made the decision to specialize. This is the case of pregnant dating sites that connect moms-to-be with single men (or women). Another idea is to swipe right on platforms dedicated to single parents. Of course, you can still look for matches on “classic” dating sites too if you prefer!
Find dates on social media
You can also use social media, such as Facebook, to find dates. Just join a group of single expectant mothers or single parents and jump into the conversation! Can’t find a group for you? Why don’t you create a new one for those who want to date during pregnancy?
How to date while pregnant
How can I tell my dates that I’m pregnant?
If you haven’t found your match on a dating site for pregnant women and he doesn’t know about your situation, you should quickly announce that you’re expecting a baby.
Additionally, if you‘ve met online, don’t wait for your first face-to-face date in order to reveal the news. They’ll definitely prefer to know the truth before they decide to meet up with you or not. Telling them straight away will also prevent you from wasting your time with men who are not interested. Moreover, don’t hesitate to mention on your online profile that you’re having a baby.
Don’t lower your expectations
Some women think that because they have a baby bump, they don’t have too much choice when it comes to dating. You’d be forgiven for thinking that the number of guys willing to date an expectant mom who isn’t getting any thinner and who has regular pregnancy mood swings could be counted on the fingers of one hand.
However, that’s not true at all. There are a large number of men who are happy (or at least, who don’t mind) dating moms-to-be. Many find pregnant women attractive and sexy. Additionally, despite the anxiety of being on your own that you might feel, it’s important to make sure that the person you’re dating is reliable, respectful, and trustworthy. If things get serious and they are still around after the birth, he may have a part to play in your child’s life. So be careful and take care of yourself, as well as of the little person you’re carrying.
Furthermore, if you want, you can also do some research on your dates. You can, for instance, check their profiles on Facebook or any other social media that they are subscribed to, just so that you can have an overview of the person you’re going to date.
Don’t rush things
You may be hoping to find the perfect guy to settle down and build your family with (perhaps even marry). However, no matter your high hopes and expectations (understandable as they may be), it’s best to keep things slow and always be prepared to end the relationship if things just aren’t working out. It’s important to remember that, just because you’re pregnant, this doesn’t necessarily mean that your opportunities are reduced or that you won’t find anyone better.
Don’t forget to use protection
It’s not because you’re pregnant that you don’t have to use protection anymore. Whether you’re going to have sex or simply have a classic dinner and a movie date, it’s always a good idea to keep condoms within easy reach, just in case. Never forget to protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases that could affect you, as well as your baby.