Making a Fatherless Child – How to React to the Child as an Adult?

By Last Updated: 12/07/2023

According to the U.S Census Bureau, 12 million one parent families live in the United States. The majority of them are single mothers.

Around 1 in 4 children grow up without a father, either because of divorce, death or the fact that more women today are choosing to become single mom’s as a lifestyle choice.

Statistics show that fatherless children are at risk of ending up in jail, or becoming pregnant under the age of 18. It’s scary reading, but it doesn’t mean that your child is going to turn out to be a delinquent because he or she hasn’t got a father.

 

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There are plenty of one parent families who have well adjusted, bright children who haven’t become damaged by the lack of a father. Just read the article on the Bump website, Brandy Burgess the author, talks about bringing up a boy on your own. She says it’s not easy, but it is possible. The Aha Parenting blog also confirms, that with love and care a child can be brought up to be as contented as a child with two parents.

Some of the main issues concerning fatherless children are discipline and the importance of a male role model. Single mothers are just as able to discipline their children as their father’s and male role models can be provided for in the shape of a grandfather, an uncle or a family friend.

Children who have father’s, but have lost contact with them because of divorce might suffer abandonment issues and this is why it is really important for couples who are in the process of divorce to keep their child’s best interests at heart.

As children get older they may want to get in touch with a father who has lost touch, or want to trace the donor of the sperm by which they were conceived, who is their biological father. In the U.S a donor can choose whether or not to remain anonymous. If he wishes to be traced in the future, he can leave his last known address and a message for his donor children.

There are also websites like Searching for my Sperm Donor Father, which enables sperm donors and children of donors to register in the hope of being traced. Another website is the Donor Sibling Registry this is a worldwide organization, which helps to find donor fathers and siblings.

As Brandy Burgess says in her article, bringing up a child as a single mother means setting limits, providing role models, spending time with your child and giving them plenty of love and care.

Single women who want to find sperm donors can use fertility clinics, buy online or get in touch with donors through a website.

There are millions of fatherless children out there and if you are thinking of becoming a single mom through choice, or you are going through a divorce, don’t let the statistics scare you. Provide what your child needs, which is discipline, love and consistency and you’ll find your child grows up to be as healthy and happy as his friends who have both parents at home.

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  1. Courtney 04/06/2018 at - Reply

    I feel like the statistic that fatherless children are more likely to have trouble is quite absurd. I know plenty of people that come from two parent homes whose lives are quite chaotic. My children will more than likely grow up without a father and will probably end up fine.

  2. Fatherless 10/25/2017 at - Reply

    How can you define yourself as a father to my SON? Really, you have nothing to do with your first son born to you…that GOD BLESS YOU WITH. Im blessed everyday and every moment of his presences. I have never kept my son from you or even been on any bs with u since my son been born. My son is the best thing in life that happen to me and for you not to acknowledged him is a crying shame..smh. You are a piece of shit to me in my eyes..STRAIGHT UP… A MAN..no that will never be your title. I have never bad mouth u to my son in all these years even though your presences was absent. My son will be 15 years old FIFTEEN on August 1st and you have not even been there for him as he has grown up and mature to the person he is today..it’s sad, smh. All I can say is, really how do you define yourself as a father? You seat and think about that…not to say you might haven’t. All I’m going say is, you just had another child and just make sure you keep your bond with your child for life. The bond you have with my son is non-existent. My son has you in his phone as “Larry”..smh. I have been through alot with my son due to your absent..but one thing for sure, I will always be there for him to the day I take my last breath. I wish I can say the same for you. Define the meaning of a Father and that might gave you a reason why I even messenger in the first place. I hope to GOD HE HAVE MERCY ON YOUR SOUL. Just had to get that off my chest. His good, loved and very much taking care of to the FULLEST..but I will always hurt for my son…especially around FATHER’S DAY..SMDH

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