Once you’ve made the decision to enter into a co-parenting agreement with somebody, the next port of call is discussing when and how you are going to go about getting pregnant. You basically have two choices here; you can choose Natural Insemination (NI) or Artificial Insemination (AI).
A lot of it will depend on your personal preference, your attraction to your prospective co-parent and your level of fertility. There is of course the cost factor, which you may need to take into account.
If you choose to go the natural way and have intercourse with your co-parent, it is of course the cheapest way to get pregnant but it could also be uncomfortable, awkward and make something enjoyable seem more like a chore, especially if you are not successful the first time. Success rates by using NI give a 12-15% likelihood of getting pregnant in a month, but this of course depends on your fertility rates and timing of intercourse.
On the other hand, if AI is your chosen route there are lots of choices out there for you. Cost ranges from minimal to thousands of dollars, but the likelihood of conception also goes up with the cost. For example, you could choose an at-home insemination, which is generally the first choice among parenting partners, and you have about a 15% chance of getting pregnant. You can also choose an Intrauterine Insemination which involves medical intervention, but provides a 10-25% chance of conceiving within a month. Unless you want to use an egg donor then In-Vitro Fertilisation (IVF) provides the highest chance of conception – between 20 and 75% per attempt – but also costs upwards of $10,000 for each try.
Your choices will depend on how much medical assistance you want or need, and the budget you are prepared to spend on getting pregnant. Most of all you need to be comfortable, so make sure that is a big factor in your pregnancy planning.