How to Have a Child Without Living Together

Having a child is a huge decision and an even bigger responsibility. You take control of another human beings life. US Co-parenting from separate households can present a challenge in your personal emotional state, as well as the moods and lifestyle of your child. Here are a few tips to follow in order to maintain a successful co-parenting relationship and healthy atmosphere for your child:

Set YOUR emotions aside:

While it is okay, and natural, to have emotions or negative feelings about this parenting situation, it is important that you do not let your relationships and feeling of the other parent(s) get involved with your relationship with your child. Keep your personal feelings out of the situation and always keep the child’s best interest in mind. Do not talk bad about another parent in front of the child, nor is it ok to encourage favoritism. Let your child come to his conclusions and collect thoughts on his own.


Conflict-free communication is key to a successful partnership. Try to maintain a business like tone, make requests- instead of demands, and LISTEN to the other parent(s). Treat them as if they were your colleague or your partner. Also, it is important to uphold regular and consistent meetings to discuss progress, problems and concerns you each have involve your child.

Parenting as a team:

It is in the child’s best interest to have consistency and similar expectations between households. You will want to maintain similar rules, discipline, and schedules as the other parent(s). Bedtimes, naptimes, mealtimes and bath times should all be the same. It is also a good idea to discuss dietary plans that you would like your child to stick to, to prevent a household full of healthy food and a household full of junk food.