Meeting a co-parent is step one of the process, and once you’ve hit it off and discovered that you have similar parenting values, wishes for your prospective child and desires for your co-parenting relationship; you’ll feel as if you are really on your way to achieving your dream of becoming a parent. One thing that co-parents should always think about, however, is background checking you prospective co-parent.
This goes for all of those that want to become a parent; man, woman, gay, lesbian, straight: despite the bond that you have developed and the shared desires for your future, you cannot know everything about this person with whom you are going to share the most important aspect of your future.
Making a connection is step one, granted, but making an informed connection is step two. There are ways of background checking your prospective co-parents, and it couldn’t be easier.
Whether you just want to make sure that your co-parent is not on the sex offender’s registry, or you want to know some more complex information about that person, you can choose from four different levels of background checks, each level providing you with more in-depth information than the previous one. Information you can choose to receive includes criminal histories from states, counties and countries, as well as terrorist watch lists and civil record repositories.
No, it’s not far-fetched and it’s not an example of how little trust our nation has in the population, it’s an example of how we should be becoming more and more sensible in this day when technology allows us not only access to finding a romantic or parenting partner, but also allows us the information we need that can tell us whether we can really trust them.
In order to perform a background check you will need some information from your prospective co-parent, and you shouldn’t be worried about asking for this information and offering it up about yourself. The person’s full name, date of birth and address will help to locate information about them, while ethnicity and work history as well as place of birth will also help.
If you do not want to be so direct with asking the prospective co-parent his or her details, remember you could ask more convoluted questions that give you an idea such as asking when they graduated high school or asking for their zodiac sign. At the end of the day, it is in both of your best interests to both receive background checks on the other, in order to increase your level of trust and confidence in your co-parent.
The more information you have about each other, the better, and the more you feel comfortable and trusting about the other co-parent, the better. Remember, while this may not be a romantic relationship, you are committing to a lifetime of being in each other’s lives.