Writing a good sperm donor profile is a crucial part of the process of finding recipients. In a few lines, you must include all the information that wannabe parents might need in order to decide whether they want to contact you or not.
Before writing your profile, it’s important that you understand more about what recipients are looking for. This will be useful to help you focus on or avoid certain things in your ad.
The most important thing to remember is that aspiring parents usually have lots of requirements regarding their potential donor. After all, this is the person that is going to help them have a baby! So, even though you won’t be able to say everything in your profile, try to ensure that they will be able to tell with a quick glance whether you might be the right person for them.
To improve your chances of being contacted by potential recipients, we’ve created a checklist of the things that you should include in your sperm donor profile:
1 Your expectations
What level of contact are you expecting to have with the child? Do you want to be more than just a sperm donor and also be a co-parent of the child? Are you happy to donate to anyone or do you have preferences? Also, how do you want to donate? Natural insemination or artificial? Another important question to consider: if you live far away from your recipient, are you willing to travel?
If you’ve registered with an online platform that connects sperm donors with recipients, then you should make your expectations clear in your profile. As there are many other profiles on these sites, you must help the recipients to realise that you’re both on the same page and that you could be a good match for each other. Make their search easier!
2 Your age
Did you know that a man’s age matters when it comes to fertility? As you get older, the quality of your sperm declines and so do your chances of getting a woman pregnant. Don’t forget to say how old you are. Your potential recipients have the right to know.
3 Your experience as a sperm donor
Have you already donated in the past? How many times? How many of these attempts ended in a successful pregnancy? It’s crucial for your recipients to be aware of whether their future child has or will have siblings. On top of that, this information will also give them an indication of your level of fertility.
4 Your location
Where do you live? Just as with a dating site, you’ll have to specify your location so that you can be reached by people living nearby or people who are willing to travel to you.
5 Your motivations for becoming a donor
Why did you choose to become a donor? Are you donating to make some extra money or purely because you want to help people fulfill their dream of starting a family? Did you decide to become a donor because you personally knew someone who was struggling to conceive? Don’t hesitate to tell your story (concisely) in your profile. Aspiring parents love reading these kinds of things!
6 Your personality
Do you have a good sense of humor? Are you introverted or extroverted? Are you often enthusiastic about things in life? Are you an optimistic person?
You’ll share your DNA with their child, so recipients have the right to know who you are! This way they can form a rough idea of the potential strengths and weaknesses that their child might have (although it’s important to note that scientists are still unsure of how genes influence personality).
7 Your hobbies and interests
What do you like doing in your free time? Do you have passions? Wannabe parents love knowing about the hobbies of their donor. This allows them to draw a mental portrait of the person who is going to help them have a baby. Equally, many prefer to choose someone who shares the same interests. With that in mind, don’t hesitate to wax lyrical about the fact that you enjoy cycling or love reading!
8 Your education and career
Just like with your interests and personality, saying a few words about your education and job can help aspiring parents to know more about the kind of person you are. This enables them to understand more about your personality and skills.
9 A picture that shows you at your best
Many recipients search for a donor who demonstrates the traits that they would love their future child to have. They can make a very quick decision – shall I click on his profile or not? – just by looking at your picture. So if you were wondering whether or not to add a picture, now you have your answer! In general, people tend to be suspicious about profiles without photos. Unfortunately, this means that many potential recepients won’t even bother clicking on your profile if you don’t display a picture.
It’s also imperative to choose a picture that shows you at your best (naturally!). You should also look friendly, trustworthy and responsible. Make sure your picture is of good quality, recent, and shows your face. Sunglasses and hair that cover your eyes are a no-no as they don’t tend to inspire much confidence in people.
10 A good username
Just like with everything else that you’ve included in your profile, your username must inspire trust in potential recipients. It might seem obvious, but forget anything that sounds even remotely sexual or flirty. It’s just not appropriate. Additionally, in order to stay safe online, make sure to never write your full name.
So, what’s the secret to finding a good pseudonym? Aim for something short, simple and easy to remember. You could, for example, use your nickname or first name and combine it with your passion.