Find a Co-Parent Match
Co-parenting doesn’t have to be the result of an ugly separation or divorce; in fact co-parenting is often a very agreeable part of gay or lesbian parenting. If you are in a same-sex relationship and you want to become parents, you might want to consider co-parenting before getting involved in a process such as surrogacy or artificial insemination which can be expensive, time-consuming and complicated.
Get started today by reading profiles on coparents.com and consider advertisements from prospective co-parents. Our co-parenting forum is your safe space to discuss views with possible co-parents regarding conception, pregnancy and upbringing, and depending on your circumstances you can search through advertisements for a lesbian or gay couple, a single woman or a single man. All of this depends on your preferences regarding your co-parent.
Once you’ve found your ideal co-parent(s), we strongly advise you to develop and agree to a signed co-parenting contract, as suggested in our blog, and then decide on how you want to go about insemination, whether that is artificial or natural. You’ll be surprised at how many happy gay and lesbian coparenting stories started with a home insemination.
How Does Co-Parenting Work?
Co-parenting is the philosophy that two (or more) individuals with non romantic coparenting attachment get together to have a child. It is often the chosen method of having a child by same-sex couples and single individuals, in order to have a partner with whom to share responsibility of the child without the stress and challenges of a romantic relationship.
Same sex co-parenting:
Same-sex co-parenting could involve one gay couple and one lesbian couple, or one same-sex couple with a single individual. This is the ideal solution for same-sex couples wanting to have a baby without going down the route of a donor or surrogate, and enables the couple to share responsibility with another.The options for same-sex couple include sharing the child between two households close together, where both couples, or the couple and the individual, provide equal parenting, finances and responsibility as well as custody of the child. The other option is to have the single person move into the same home as the couple, either as a short-term or long-term arrangement, in order to more closely organise every point of the process from insemination, through pregnancy and into the upbringing of the child.These options are completely up to you and your co-parent depending on how you want to go about your child’s upbringing.
Modern co-parenting:
Non-romantic co-parenting is the journey chosen by two single individuals who wish to have a child without the ties of a romantic relationship. The co-parents will usually share equal responsibility of the child including finances, education, custody and all other aspects of the child’s upbringing. The child usually grows up in two different households, but the platonic couple could also choose to share a house in order to make the first years of their child’s life more seamless.
Frequently asked questions about co-parenting
Finding a suitable co-parent match online?
Around 20% of all adults never have a child of their own, and for some people this is entirely by choice, but for others this is by circumstance. Professional people with strong values, impressive resources and inspiring life experiences often reach their 30s and find themselves single for varying reasons, but with everything that they want from life but a child.Being in a position where parenting with a romantic partner is not a possibility shouldn’t close doors, it should open them, and that is the option that coparents.com wants to give its members.
Why would I have a child with a stranger?
You won’t by any means be having a child with a stranger. Choosing a co-parent does not happen overnight, and by choosing a co-parent you will be choosing somebody with whom you share values, similar goals and parenting outlook in order to bring a child into the world.Before you bring your child into the world however, the aim of co-parenting is to get to know one another and form a friendship or personal relationship on which you can base your parenting. The most successful co-parenting partnerships come from co-parents who spend a lot of time getting to know each other before beginning to process of insemination, pregnancy and child upbringing.
What is the difference between a co-parents and a ‘known donor’?
A co-parent is somebody with whom you share all parenting responsibilities from finances to education, religion and custody, whereas a known donor is somebody who donates sperm or an egg in order for you to have a child, but might not necessarily want to have a part in the upbringing of the child.The known donor will be somebody known to you, you might meet them through coparents.com or you might have known them before. Knowing your donor will enable you to ask all of the questions which you want to know about the natural parent of your child, such as these examples on our blog.
Who will be the legal parents?
That depends on your preferences and the arrangement that you have with your co-parent. Depending on whether you are two single individuals or two same-sex couples, in the United States it is legal for up to three parents to be named as legal parents on a child’s birth certificate.
Looking to have a child with any race female! I’m a 21 yr old very healthy blk male!!! Looking to co parent I’m located around southeast Missouri!
My husband and I are looking to have a baby, we are looking for a healthy, educated young woman who doesn’t smoke or drink that can either donate or co-parent with us. Open to all possible options. We are in the NYC area.
im a 34 yr old latino male blood type o negative rh factor and willing to donate my sperm i just would like to have a child even if im not in a relationship with that person i have no children and im getting older please contact me
Hi Michael –
I am interested. Where are you located as I am on the east coast, Maryland, DC area to be exact?
I am a 27 year old African American mother of 1. I would like to have another child before I am 30. I prefer the coparent route. If anyone is interested, contact me here.
Hi i am interested Im young african Man looking to have
kid
I’m in my 20s, I want to be a mom but not in a romantic relationship. Would love to co-parent with a gay couple or individual
I want to be a parent. I have no kids never married. We cannot have kids would like someone younger and want her to live with us in Toronto Canada. If interested tell me something about yourself.
Curiosity, if my wife and I are doing ici, which we have multiple times, lost 1,000’s off dollars in missed peaked attempts so we’re going for a free donor route, how would it work? Would we have the sperm shipped to us? Or…..
I really want kids and am looking for a friend(s) to coparent with in the San Diego area. If your interested please contact me
Hi Anna, my wife and I have been trying to be parents for 6 years but with no success. I am interested with the co-parent idea. Shall we talk?
I am looking for a man that is ready to co parent. I am 36 years of age and I really want to be a mother. I don’t need a romantic relationship.
Just a decent man, stable life and Educated.
Hi Re, my wife and I have been trying to be parents for 6 years but with no success. I am interested with the co-parent idea. Shall we talk?
I’m interested in becoming a parent I’m 20 years old trying to have a Baby before I turn 21. Any females 18-40 willing to start a family with me I’m your guy. Please Contact me
Hi,
I’m looking to co parent I’m a lesbian who’s ready and really want to have a child or kids.
Hi Andrea. In what city are you?
I”m really eager to have a child as well and I’m new to the whole scene of co-parenting..
Hi I am 32 and I have always wanted to be a mother I’m looking for a donor or someone to co-parenting with.
Educated 29 year old gentleman from southeast MO. I currently work in retail management. I am homosexual and single. Would love to find a co-parenting situation with a lovely lady who would eventually become a best friend so our child would have as close to a traditional family as possible. I am willing to go the natural route or insemination. Thank you.
Hi my son is eight years old and is autistic. I am looking for a co parent he needs a father figure in his life.
Hi Audrey. I have some experience working with autistic children and I’m interested in co-parenting. How is your son coming along in his effort to adapt and grow?..
Hello, I am looking for that special someone to co parent with me open to lesbian or straight.
I’m looking for someone who is interested in co-parenting.
Hi Charles. I’m really eager to co-parent in a kind and nurturing environment as well. Should we talk?…
Hey there!! I am a 48 year old, single woman, preparing for IVF. Neither the eggs nor the sperm have been procured yet but I am open to ideas and may be interested in finding a younger person or couple that would like to co-parent with me.
I’ve always wanted to be a father and after 7 years of marriage my husband just told me he never wanted to be a father and wanted me to give it up too. So we’ve decided it’s time to end and it is time for me to focus on being happy……I would love to find a Coparent who is down to earth and ready to build a great relationship…….35 from the New England area in the hospitality industry……,,,,,
I’m in the same sort of situation. I”m really eager to have a child or children and would love to have the structure and support that comes with co-parenting..
Good evening all. I’m a bachelor, maybe older with a younger look by my own choosing. I would like to have a child as a coparent with a female, and help raise the child in a great environment. I choice coparentjng because you get women of today want same age mates. Who can blame them. Again I need information. US only Carrie’s 4% of the worlds population. That’s weak
Couple in NC looking to coparent with lesbian couple.
I’m looking for a woman to co parent with. I am married and my wife can’t have more children. She is 10 years older than me .
Looking to have a child with someone who will love them as much as I do. Very stable in all aspects in my life, and looking for someone who wants the same.
Hi Adam. Those sentiments resonate with me very much so.
I am 41 years old I ain’t got no kids and what I want in life to find a woman with no stranger text that I can have a kid by and I will take care of my kids and I can’t be well taking care of that’s one thing a woman should know I just need to find someone that will to be adult ever agreement and for me to have a kid
Hi I’m 34 years old Asian female wanted to be a mother all my life.
I’m married but my husband can not give me kids because he have a health problem.
I’m looking for 30 to 40 Aussie male blue eyes blonde hair Donor looking for help guys 🙏 please make my dream come true 🙏
Hi,
I’m an aussie guy in the same situation. We might be a match, but otherwise, i’d love to have a chat to you about it…. perhaps over coffee as this process is confusing and seems complicated.
Message me for details if you want a coffee
Hi!
37 y/o healthy female in Los Angeles. Looking for an open donor or co-parent with a great human being. Someone with a great sense of humor and good genes.
Hi Lauren, can we coparent?
Someone questioned also,why around here,it seemed like ones could have around here but live elsewhere and looking to wed.however persons gave a fuss like ones could not go back together.whats up with that?have a clue?
Still looking for co..doesn’t seem like to much here ,however if others are watching and waiting…(female seeking male,that is.)
I would like to co-parent with a responsible adult close by. I live in New York, rockland county. I’m African-American. I would prefer to co-parent with someone outside my race. I’m 26 years old.
I’m interested in becoming a parent and am willing to co parent so if any woman is ready to become a mother but is scared to raise a child alone I am willing to be that man.
Wanting to donate sperm
I am an adult female going through ovarian rejuvenation. Looking for a partner for a coparenting agreement.
Me: Educated, well-travelled, self-employed, former education administrator and Montessori Pre-K teacher with a high IQ, close family and support system, black. Planning pregnancy at the end of 2022 or beginning of 2023. Kind, loving, supportive. Raised nephews and nieces so didn’t have a chance to have a child thé traditional way.
I am a 37byear old male looking to have a baby. I live in Southern Ontario.
Looking to meet a guy to co parent with in Houston Tx. I’m a ELA teacher and have a 7 month old son.
Hello Geralyn
Can you tell me more about your situation.
Hi I am a 40 yr old woman from NY and have a successful career but would like to have a baby. I’m looking for someone to coparent with. Anyone from the NY area?
Hi I’m a 30 year old male who wants to have a child
Ever since I was a boy I wanted to have a son im a single gay but very discreet and private male.i know I would make a great father .please lets go half on everything regarding our child!
I’m 34 looking to have my first child. Would love to have a co parent
My wife can’t have kids and I really want one.
Any females needing help having kids I’m 25 and single and if any couples or women need help starting a family let me know
Seeking a woman or female couple wanting a baby. In Wisconsin or northern IL is preferred.
Hey I’m 26 years old trying to have A Baby before i turn 27. Most people say I’m A beautiful girl but can’t find anyone to have A Baby with me. Could some please help, I’m looking for A black/Jamaican male .
My husband and I are looking to adopt/co-parent. I’m a pediatric nurse/nurse practitioner (graduate this year). My husband is a Chef. We have two beautiful dogs and lots of love to share.
I am 10 years older than my husband and have 3 grown kids. I can’t have any more children and don’t want to neccissarily raise anymore kids. But he wants a kid. We are interested in him co-parenting with someone. My husband would make a great father
My partner has a child from her previous marriage. She can’t. The doctors said that I could have a baby, so my wife allowed me to have another daughter. Please any women interested contact me
Hello,
I am 38 and do not have a child and would like a partner that wants one as well.
Dee
I am looking for coparent , I have a stable life.
Where are you from?
Martin
Can we talk?
I’m married, but my wife doesn’t want to have kids. However, she is okay if I can assist another family help have family.
Hi, I’m a 37 year old man and wanted to be a father all my life. I don’t do relationship s all that well, I really want to be a co parent with another responsible adult female. I would rather be a co parent than a sperm donor
Hello, where do you live? What do you do ?
I would like to chat in private, thanks
I’m a mother of one and I’m not ready yet to be a mother my son is a year 7months old and would like him to have parents who would raise him and love him and adopt him
Yours sincerely R Mashamaite
Hi Julia,
I am interested in adoption.
Interested in becoming a parent any way possible I’m unable to have children my husband is Able