Find a Co-Parent Match

By Last Updated: 12/07/2023

Co-parenting doesn’t have to be the result of an ugly separation or divorce; in fact co-parenting is often a very agreeable part of gay or lesbian parenting. If you are in a same-sex relationship and you want to become parents, you might want to consider co-parenting before getting involved in a process such as surrogacy or artificial insemination which can be expensive, time-consuming and complicated.

Get started today by reading profiles on coparents.com and consider advertisements from prospective co-parents. Our co-parenting forum is your safe space to discuss views with possible co-parents regarding conception, pregnancy and upbringing, and depending on your circumstances you can search through advertisements for a lesbian or gay couple, a single woman or a single man. All of this depends on your preferences regarding your co-parent.

Once you’ve found your ideal co-parent(s), we strongly advise you to develop and agree to a signed co-parenting contract, as suggested in our blog, and then decide on how you want to go about insemination, whether that is artificial or natural. You’ll be surprised at how many happy gay and lesbian coparenting stories started with a home insemination.

 

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How Does Co-Parenting Work?

Co-parenting is the philosophy that two (or more) individuals with non romantic coparenting attachment get together to have a child. It is often the chosen method of having a child by same-sex couples and single individuals, in order to have a partner with whom to share responsibility of the child without the stress and challenges of a romantic relationship.

Same sex co-parenting:

Same-sex co-parenting could involve one gay couple and one lesbian couple, or one same-sex couple with a single individual. This is the ideal solution for same-sex couples wanting to have a baby without going down the route of a donor or surrogate, and enables the couple to share responsibility with another.The options for same-sex couple include sharing the child between two households close together, where both couples, or the couple and the individual, provide equal parenting, finances and responsibility as well as custody of the child. The other option is to have the single person move into the same home as the couple, either as a short-term or long-term arrangement, in order to more closely organise every point of the process from insemination, through pregnancy and into the upbringing of the child.These options are completely up to you and your co-parent depending on how you want to go about your child’s upbringing.

Modern co-parenting:

Non-romantic co-parenting is the journey chosen by two single individuals who wish to have a child without the ties of a romantic relationship. The co-parents will usually share equal responsibility of the child including finances, education, custody and all other aspects of the child’s upbringing. The child usually grows up in two different households, but the platonic couple could also choose to share a house in order to make the first years of their child’s life more seamless.

Frequently asked questions about co-parenting

Finding a suitable co-parent match online?
Around 20% of all adults never have a child of their own, and for some people this is entirely by choice, but for others this is by circumstance. Professional people with strong values, impressive resources and inspiring life experiences often reach their 30s and find themselves single for varying reasons, but with everything that they want from life but a child.Being in a position where parenting with a romantic partner is not a possibility shouldn’t close doors, it should open them, and that is the option that coparents.com wants to give its members.

Why would I have a child with a stranger?

You won’t by any means be having a child with a stranger. Choosing a co-parent does not happen overnight, and by choosing a co-parent you will be choosing somebody with whom you share values, similar goals and parenting outlook in order to bring a child into the world.Before you bring your child into the world however, the aim of co-parenting is to get to know one another and form a friendship or personal relationship on which you can base your parenting. The most successful co-parenting partnerships come from co-parents who spend a lot of time getting to know each other before beginning to process of insemination, pregnancy and child upbringing.

What is the difference between a co-parents and a ‘known donor’?

A co-parent is somebody with whom you share all parenting responsibilities from finances to education, religion and custody, whereas a known donor is somebody who donates sperm or an egg in order for you to have a child, but might not necessarily want to have a part in the upbringing of the child.The known donor will be somebody known to you, you might meet them through coparents.com or you might have known them before. Knowing your donor will enable you to ask all of the questions which you want to know about the natural parent of your child, such as these examples on our blog.

Who will be the legal parents?

That depends on your preferences and the arrangement that you have with your co-parent. Depending on whether you are two single individuals or two same-sex couples, in the United States it is legal for up to three parents to be named as legal parents on a child’s birth certificate.

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65 Comments

  1. Fred 10/08/2023 at - Reply

    Looking to have a child with any race female! I’m a 21 yr old very healthy blk male!!! Looking to co parent I’m located around southeast Missouri!

  2. Bobbie 10/01/2023 at - Reply

    My husband and I are looking to have a baby, we are looking for a healthy, educated young woman who doesn’t smoke or drink that can either donate or co-parent with us. Open to all possible options. We are in the NYC area.

  3. Michael H 07/29/2023 at - Reply

    im a 34 yr old latino male blood type o negative rh factor and willing to donate my sperm i just would like to have a child even if im not in a relationship with that person i have no children and im getting older please contact me

    • Cheria 08/08/2023 at - Reply

      Hi Michael –

      I am interested. Where are you located as I am on the east coast, Maryland, DC area to be exact?

      • Kanei B. 08/21/2023 at - Reply

        I am a 27 year old African American mother of 1. I would like to have another child before I am 30. I prefer the coparent route. If anyone is interested, contact me here.

        • Tim G. 01/30/2024 at - Reply

          Hi i am interested Im young african Man looking to have
          kid

  4. Elaina 01/28/2023 at - Reply

    I’m in my 20s, I want to be a mom but not in a romantic relationship. Would love to co-parent with a gay couple or individual

  5. Dennis 01/20/2023 at - Reply

    I want to be a parent. I have no kids never married. We cannot have kids would like someone younger and want her to live with us in Toronto Canada. If interested tell me something about yourself.

  6. Taylor 01/15/2023 at - Reply

    Curiosity, if my wife and I are doing ici, which we have multiple times, lost 1,000’s off dollars in missed peaked attempts so we’re going for a free donor route, how would it work? Would we have the sperm shipped to us? Or…..

  7. Anna 12/26/2022 at - Reply

    I really want kids and am looking for a friend(s) to coparent with in the San Diego area. If your interested please contact me

    • Tim 05/21/2023 at - Reply

      Hi Anna, my wife and I have been trying to be parents for 6 years but with no success. I am interested with the co-parent idea. Shall we talk?

  8. Re 12/17/2022 at - Reply

    I am looking for a man that is ready to co parent. I am 36 years of age and I really want to be a mother. I don’t need a romantic relationship.
    Just a decent man, stable life and Educated.

    • Anonymous 05/21/2023 at - Reply

      Hi Re, my wife and I have been trying to be parents for 6 years but with no success. I am interested with the co-parent idea. Shall we talk?

  9. Richard 12/02/2022 at - Reply

    I’m interested in becoming a parent I’m 20 years old trying to have a Baby before I turn 21. Any females 18-40 willing to start a family with me I’m your guy. Please Contact me

  10. Andrea 10/22/2022 at - Reply

    Hi,

    I’m looking to co parent I’m a lesbian who’s ready and really want to have a child or kids.

    • Jay 11/01/2022 at - Reply

      Hi Andrea. In what city are you?

    • Greg 11/14/2022 at - Reply

      I”m really eager to have a child as well and I’m new to the whole scene of co-parenting..

  11. Jo 10/12/2022 at - Reply

    Hi I am 32 and I have always wanted to be a mother I’m looking for a donor or someone to co-parenting with.

  12. Patrick 09/16/2022 at - Reply

    Educated 29 year old gentleman from southeast MO. I currently work in retail management. I am homosexual and single. Would love to find a co-parenting situation with a lovely lady who would eventually become a best friend so our child would have as close to a traditional family as possible. I am willing to go the natural route or insemination. Thank you.

  13. Audrey 09/10/2022 at - Reply

    Hi my son is eight years old and is autistic. I am looking for a co parent he needs a father figure in his life.

    • Greg 11/14/2022 at - Reply

      Hi Audrey. I have some experience working with autistic children and I’m interested in co-parenting. How is your son coming along in his effort to adapt and grow?..

  14. Terrance 08/16/2022 at - Reply

    Hello, I am looking for that special someone to co parent with me open to lesbian or straight.

  15. Charles 08/13/2022 at - Reply

    I’m looking for someone who is interested in co-parenting.

    • Greg 11/15/2022 at - Reply

      Hi Charles. I’m really eager to co-parent in a kind and nurturing environment as well. Should we talk?…

  16. Karla 07/02/2022 at - Reply

    Hey there!! I am a 48 year old, single woman, preparing for IVF. Neither the eggs nor the sperm have been procured yet but I am open to ideas and may be interested in finding a younger person or couple that would like to co-parent with me.

  17. Rainbow Divorce 06/03/2022 at - Reply

    I’ve always wanted to be a father and after 7 years of marriage my husband just told me he never wanted to be a father and wanted me to give it up too. So we’ve decided it’s time to end and it is time for me to focus on being happy……I would love to find a Coparent who is down to earth and ready to build a great relationship…….35 from the New England area in the hospitality industry……,,,,,

    • Greg 11/14/2022 at - Reply

      I’m in the same sort of situation. I”m really eager to have a child or children and would love to have the structure and support that comes with co-parenting..

  18. Tim 06/03/2022 at - Reply

    Good evening all. I’m a bachelor, maybe older with a younger look by my own choosing. I would like to have a child as a coparent with a female, and help raise the child in a great environment. I choice coparentjng because you get women of today want same age mates. Who can blame them. Again I need information. US only Carrie’s 4% of the worlds population. That’s weak

  19. Taren and Alex 05/19/2022 at - Reply

    Couple in NC looking to coparent with lesbian couple.

  20. Josh 05/11/2022 at - Reply

    I’m looking for a woman to co parent with. I am married and my wife can’t have more children. She is 10 years older than me .

  21. Adam 05/04/2022 at - Reply

    Looking to have a child with someone who will love them as much as I do. Very stable in all aspects in my life, and looking for someone who wants the same.

    • Greg 11/16/2022 at - Reply

      Hi Adam. Those sentiments resonate with me very much so.

  22. Terrance 04/13/2022 at - Reply

    I am 41 years old I ain’t got no kids and what I want in life to find a woman with no stranger text that I can have a kid by and I will take care of my kids and I can’t be well taking care of that’s one thing a woman should know I just need to find someone that will to be adult ever agreement and for me to have a kid

  23. Reyna 03/30/2022 at - Reply

    Hi I’m 34 years old Asian female wanted to be a mother all my life.
    I’m married but my husband can not give me kids because he have a health problem.
    I’m looking for 30 to 40 Aussie male blue eyes blonde hair Donor looking for help guys 🙏 please make my dream come true 🙏

    • North 09/07/2022 at - Reply

      Hi,

      I’m an aussie guy in the same situation. We might be a match, but otherwise, i’d love to have a chat to you about it…. perhaps over coffee as this process is confusing and seems complicated.

      Message me for details if you want a coffee

  24. Lauren A 03/17/2022 at - Reply

    Hi!

    37 y/o healthy female in Los Angeles. Looking for an open donor or co-parent with a great human being. Someone with a great sense of humor and good genes.

    • Edward 12/07/2022 at - Reply

      Hi Lauren, can we coparent?

  25. Angel 01/06/2022 at - Reply

    Someone questioned also,why around here,it seemed like ones could have around here but live elsewhere and looking to wed.however persons gave a fuss like ones could not go back together.whats up with that?have a clue?

  26. Angel 01/06/2022 at - Reply

    Still looking for co..doesn’t seem like to much here ,however if others are watching and waiting…(female seeking male,that is.)

  27. Kemeisha 01/03/2022 at - Reply

    I would like to co-parent with a responsible adult close by. I live in New York, rockland county. I’m African-American. I would prefer to co-parent with someone outside my race. I’m 26 years old.

  28. Joel 12/26/2021 at - Reply

    I’m interested in becoming a parent and am willing to co parent so if any woman is ready to become a mother but is scared to raise a child alone I am willing to be that man.

  29. Seth Benjamin 12/09/2021 at - Reply

    Wanting to donate sperm

  30. Lovetolaugh 11/22/2021 at - Reply

    I am an adult female going through ovarian rejuvenation. Looking for a partner for a coparenting agreement.
    Me: Educated, well-travelled, self-employed, former education administrator and Montessori Pre-K teacher with a high IQ, close family and support system, black. Planning pregnancy at the end of 2022 or beginning of 2023. Kind, loving, supportive. Raised nephews and nieces so didn’t have a chance to have a child thé traditional way.

  31. John 11/18/2021 at - Reply

    I am a 37byear old male looking to have a baby. I live in Southern Ontario.

  32. Geralyn 10/27/2021 at - Reply

    Looking to meet a guy to co parent with in Houston Tx. I’m a ELA teacher and have a 7 month old son.

    • Steven 02/03/2022 at - Reply

      Hello Geralyn
      Can you tell me more about your situation.

  33. Lei 10/17/2021 at - Reply

    Hi I am a 40 yr old woman from NY and have a successful career but would like to have a baby. I’m looking for someone to coparent with. Anyone from the NY area?

  34. Nelly 10/11/2021 at - Reply

    Hi I’m a 30 year old male who wants to have a child
    Ever since I was a boy I wanted to have a son im a single gay but very discreet and private male.i know I would make a great father .please lets go half on everything regarding our child!

    • Nae 10/16/2022 at - Reply

      I’m 34 looking to have my first child. Would love to have a co parent

  35. Donald 09/27/2021 at - Reply

    My wife can’t have kids and I really want one.

  36. Mike 09/24/2021 at - Reply

    Any females needing help having kids I’m 25 and single and if any couples or women need help starting a family let me know

  37. Philip 09/16/2021 at - Reply

    Seeking a woman or female couple wanting a baby. In Wisconsin or northern IL is preferred.

  38. Que 08/23/2021 at - Reply

    Hey I’m 26 years old trying to have A Baby before i turn 27. Most people say I’m A beautiful girl but can’t find anyone to have A Baby with me. Could some please help, I’m looking for A black/Jamaican male .

  39. Carlos 06/12/2021 at - Reply

    My husband and I are looking to adopt/co-parent. I’m a pediatric nurse/nurse practitioner (graduate this year). My husband is a Chef. We have two beautiful dogs and lots of love to share.

  40. Kim 06/04/2021 at - Reply

    I am 10 years older than my husband and have 3 grown kids. I can’t have any more children and don’t want to neccissarily raise anymore kids. But he wants a kid. We are interested in him co-parenting with someone. My husband would make a great father

  41. Senay 06/03/2021 at - Reply

    My partner has a child from her previous marriage. She can’t. The doctors said that I could have a baby, so my wife allowed me to have another daughter. Please any women interested contact me

  42. Dee 04/27/2021 at - Reply

    Hello,
    I am 38 and do not have a child and would like a partner that wants one as well.

    Dee

    • Martin 07/12/2021 at - Reply

      I am looking for coparent , I have a stable life.
      Where are you from?

      Martin

    • Phe 12/28/2021 at - Reply

      Can we talk?

  43. Daniel 02/22/2021 at - Reply

    I’m married, but my wife doesn’t want to have kids. However, she is okay if I can assist another family help have family.

  44. Jeffery 02/11/2021 at - Reply

    Hi, I’m a 37 year old man and wanted to be a father all my life. I don’t do relationship s all that well, I really want to be a co parent with another responsible adult female. I would rather be a co parent than a sperm donor

    • Amy B 04/21/2021 at - Reply

      Hello, where do you live? What do you do ?
      I would like to chat in private, thanks

  45. Julia 01/12/2021 at - Reply

    I’m a mother of one and I’m not ready yet to be a mother my son is a year 7months old and would like him to have parents who would raise him and love him and adopt him
    Yours sincerely R Mashamaite

    • Carl 01/18/2021 at - Reply

      Hi Julia,

      I am interested in adoption.

  46. Briana 12/05/2020 at - Reply

    Interested in becoming a parent any way possible I’m unable to have children my husband is Able

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